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Lately, I've been thinking about why people sometimes confuse honesty with rudeness. I think I've finally figured it out. Some other friends think very similar, and are always honest but even I have some rules about my honesty. They don't.
Apparently, some people think that because they have the right to talk, they HAVE to say every single thing that crosses their mind. And all they say to defend themselves when being accused of being rude is say: "I'm just being honest".
NO! Being honest does not mean that you have the right to hurt people's feelings or say things that won't help anybody. If you are to say the truth, use it wisely! It's true that the best way to avoid trouble is to say the truth, but, at least in my opinion truth should is to be said when asked for and kept when it won't be helpful. Is the truth that you're about to say going to help that person? Does that person want to know what you're about to say? Is that person going to get hurt by your words?
Truth is rarely used nowadays and when I finally find people who use it, they use it as a shield when they're just being assholes. Why can't they tell the difference?
Honestly,
Andrea.
Maybe it's hard to be truthful when noone wants to hear it? And you can make the difference just by finally saying it. It's better to say true words, but only by making mistakes you can learn how to make it in a better form. And anyway only form will be sweeter, not the content. We just need to admit, that there are sad things, that can not look or be represented as pretty and nice.
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